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Selma, our elderly family friend, has passed away. I understand she had an easy and peaceful death.

Selma was my mother's best friend, and a dear member of my chosen family. She has been there for my mother and I through some very tough times. She was a gentle, steadfast person with a big heart. Her beloved husband, also someone I loved, died a few years ago. She has two adult daughters.

I'm going to the funeral tomorrow, making the round-trip in one day. I'm driving to Buffalo and leaving the car at the airport. Thank goodness for JetBlue.

I won't post tomorrow, and probably not Friday, either. Before I go, I want to share a memory of my friend Selma.

For the Jewish high holidays in 2001, we were gathered at my mother's home. This was immediately after 9/11. My mother lives on the New Jersey side of the Hudson River, opposite New York City; her apartment faces the skyline. Standing on her balcony, you could see the giant cloud of dust and smoke hanging over lower Manhattan. The wind still smelled of heartbreak.

We were talking quietly, relating various thoughts and memories of The Day. Selma was a tiny woman, very thin, with a small voice, made more frail from Parkinson's disease. So imagine this tiny, quavering voice, speaking very clearly and precisely, and her thin hands miming the action. "Every time I see George Bush on TV," said Selma, "I just want to wring his neck."

See you on Saturday.


Granny said...

I'm sorry about the loss of your friend. Even under these circumstances it can't be easy.

Safe travel wishes for you.

laura k said...

Thanks Granny. She will be missed, for sure. Thanks for the your thoughts.

sharonapple88 said...

Peace be to you, your family, and your friends.

Crabbi said...


I'm so sorry about your friend. You and Allen are in my thoughts

David Cho said...

So sorry to hear about your friend. I hope your trip goes well

SteveR said...

May G-d give you and your family and friends stregnth during this difficult time, and may you be comforted among those who morn in Zion.

laura k said...

Thanks, but please spare me the religion. Selma would have wanted it that way.

I'm not mourning in Zion. I live here on planet Earth.