Grouchy demands occasionally work. My recent post prompted several replies.
I must admit - getting a bit more personal than I normally do - I had been seriously disappointed that more people couldn't or wouldn't attend.
On the one hand there are our friends and family in the New York/New Jersey area. Since everyone says they'll come up and visit "one day," I thought throwing a party would offer an opportunity and excuse to make good. But no. It was bad timing for most. (The very wonderful and happy exception is wmtc reader Mkk and our nephew D, recently relocated from New Mexico, who we can't wait to see.)
On the other hand there's the wmtc crowd. Of course many wmtc readers don't live anywhere near us, and I didn't expect cross-continental treks for a backyard get-together. But many who live in and around T.O. are choosing not to show their faces in person.
I'm so used to meeting online friends in person that it's very natural to me. The internet is a great way to meet people, and we've met online friends in cities all over North America. So I forget that for some people, making that leap from internet to physical life is scary and unwelcome.
And then of course there are a million conflicts - weddings, family barbecues, and other happy events like book signings. And the expected guest list shrinks from 45-50 to 20-25 people.
So that's my sob story, and if it's the worst one I have this summer, I'm a lucky girl. I gave myself a good talking to and remembered we'll have a really fun day with whoever shows up. At the very worst, we'll have a small, quiet gathering, where we eat lots of good food and enjoy each other's company, and that sounds pretty nice.