1.03.2008

happy anniversary to us

Today is the most important day in Laura And Allan Land, the anniversary of our domestic partnership: 21 years.

21 years??? That can be??

Apparently so.

We usually do something very special to celebrate, either go away for a few days or have an incredible four-star dining experience. We did that in New York even when we were really poor.

Last year, as some of you may recall, for that beautiful round number of 20 years, we fulfilled a long-standing dream of staying at the Ice Hotel. (Story here and here; photos here.)

But this past year I had my job upheaval and finances were tight, and we pretty much spent our anniversary-celebration money on the cottage trip we shouldn't have taken (but were glad we did) in September.

When did we become so adult and responsible? Bah.

So this year we are breaking with our tradition and celebrating at home, with some special bottles of wine from this year's Niagara-region wine tour, good food, and music and comedy.

Although I'm sure it will be a nice evening, I'm also afraid that this year will mark the end of our valuing and celebrating this Very Important Day. (Allan tells me it isn't so, but I'm concerned.) So to assuage this fear, I'm already thinking ahead to celebration #22: a few days in Quebec City, which I've heard is wonderfully romantic, and which could also include a day at the Ice Hotel.

Right now we're off to spend the day together foraging for yumminess for tonight's private party.

Here's a link to the story of January 3, 1987, because I never get tired of telling it. A certain New Englander who is both a friend of wmtc and a citizen of Joy Nation might especially appreciate it.

31 comments:

redsock said...

Yay for us!

M@ said...

Congrats, guys. It's very inspiring that you've been together that long! After a memorable start like that, I'm not surprised you celebrate it every year.

Many happy returns.

Amy said...

Happy anniversary! Don't fret about the fact that this year's celebration is a quiet one. In 31 years our celebrations have ranged from a family trip to Italy (for 25) to a pizza and beer (when the first child was a baby). Sadly, five years ago my father in law died on our anniversary. I thought we would never be able to have a happy anniversary day again, but that has not been the case. The important thing, of course, is not the celebration of the day, but the ongoing celebration that is your life together.

And thanks so much for the link back to the beginning. (Am I presumptuous to think I am the New Englander you are referring to? You know what a sap I am for a good love story!) Now where is the link to the prequel, i.e., the story of how Allan and Laura met while living so far apart?

L-girl said...

Thank you, M@ and Amy!

Amy, thanks for that, re celebrations. I love anniversaries (esp because we don't celebrate most of the standard holidays) and I never want to take such a thing for granted. But you're right to put it in perspective.

Awful about Harvey's dad dying that day. I'm glad you were able to reclaim the date despite that sadness.

(Am I presumptuous to think I am the New Englander you are referring to? You know what a sap I am for a good love story!)

Your presumption is correct! :)

Now where is the link to the prequel, i.e., the story of how Allan and Laura met while living so far apart?

Oh, that's a good one. I'll see if I wrote it on any of the July 20 posts. If not, I will be sure to do so.

You might like this post on the 20th anniversary of the day we met. Allan gave us a great surprise.

Gotta run, talk to you all later.

mkk said...

Happy Anniversary, Laura and Allan! Congratulations on your 21 years! Marty and I both wish you many more happy years together, no matter how you choose to celebrate. I loved what Amy said: "The important thing, of course, is not the celebration of the day, but the ongoing celebration that is your life together."

Excellent article about Chantal Petitclerc!

West End Bound said...

We trust today is a joyous one in Laura and Allan Land.

Congrats!!

L-girl said...

Thanks, Marcie and WEB!

Marcie, a copy of that NM is on its way to you via paper mail. I just received my copy and it looks really nice. Chantal is SO photogenic.

redsock said...

Thanks, Marcie!

redsock said...

I went back to JoS to see what I wrote about the July 20, 2005 trip to Boston. Not much, but I also have the picture up. A nice six-run first inning for the Sox set the tone. (We were still a little more than two months away from moving north!)

Ahhhhh - the night before. July 19: I go to Shea and thank Mr. David Roberts!!!

Amy said...

Thanks for the link to the post of your Fenway anniversary-of-the-day-you-met celebration. That was very cool (as was Allan's story about meeting Dave Roberts the day before at Shea). I love baseball game anniversaries! For our first wedding anniversary (June 20, 1977), we went to Fenway for a Sox-Yankees game. Unfortunately all we could afford back then were bleacher seats, and you can imagine the treatment Harvey got rooting for the Yankees in the Fenway bleachers!

I hope you guys are having a wonderful day and a great dinner tonight. Too bad there is no baseball in January.

Nigel Patel said...

Happy Anniversary!

mkk said...

Thanks, Laura! I'll look forward to seeing it. I also loved your article on Steven Fletcher -- though I don't think I ever got around to telling you that.

L-girl said...

Thanks Nige! :)

Marcie, thanks for reading the Steven Fletcher story, I'm glad you liked it.

Amy, I enjoyed going back to that Dave Roberts post too. (How did he get from Shea to Washington Heights in an hour?!)

I love that you and Harvey celebrated your 1st anniversary at a Sox-Yankees game. And in 1977!! A very tough time for the rivalry. A testament to how strong your relationship was from the start. :)

Lone Primate said...

Happy anniversary, belatedly. :)

L-girl said...

Thank you, LP. :)

Jere said...

Amy! Which game of that series did you go to in '77? I ask because I've been trying to figure something out about it, and all of a sudden, here you are, a person who may have been there.

The series went from 6/17 to 6/19, Friday to Sunday. On either Friday or Sunday (not Saturday because that was an NBC game--we'd have proof if it was that day), SUPPOSEDLY, Carl Yastrzemski hit the right field roof facade at Fenway. If true, it was the one and only time it's ever been done. I did the research and all I could find was that it happened in that series you went to. I even asked Allan about this, and he hadn't heard of such a thing. I hadn't either until recently, which is why it seems like it might be urban legend.

SO. Any recollection of this? Can you ask your husband, too? I mean, surely this event would be something you remember if you saw it live, right? If not, do you remember any talk that day of this happening?

Happy Anniversary, L and A.

From, another "New Englander who is both a friend of wmtc and a citizen of Joy Nation who [did] especially appreciate [the story.]"

L-girl said...

Thanks Jere! As I wrote that sentence, although I was specifically directing it at Amy, of course I was thinking, This applies to both Amy and Jere. (And perhaps others, such as s1c.)

Amy said...

Jere, I would love to help you out, but I have absolutely no recollection of Yaz doing that, nor do I remember any of the other details of that game, other than fearing for my life sitting with a rowdy Yankee fan in the Fenway bleachers. My guess is that we would have gone on a Saturday, but I can't be positive even of that. Too bad we didn't have electronic calendars back then because then I could search back and see! To be honest, I don't even recall who WON that game. I have a strong sense that the Sox did, but I would have to find the records from 77 to do that. I am sure that you or Allan can tell me that from memory!

(Sorry, Laura, somehow JOS seems to have migrated over to WMTC!)

L-girl said...

(Sorry, Laura, somehow JOS seems to have migrated over to WMTC!)

No problem!

Too bad we didn't have electronic calendars back then because then I could search back and see!

Although they're not electronic, I have every calendar I ever used since I started keeping a calendar in high school! I never kept a diary, so I'm glad I have those records.

However, when I went to a baseball game, I made no note of who won or the score, just that I was going. So even my record-keeping and record-saving wouldn't have helped if this were my memory.

I am sure that you or Allan can tell me that from memory!

No way, but as soon as Allan reads this, he'll look it up on retrosheet.

Amy said...

Wow, that's amazing that you kept all those calendars. I do have some really old ones from high school, but there is a big gap from college through whenever I began keeping a calendar on Yahoo and then Google. Same gap that I have in my memory banks! Somehow the decades of the 70s and 80s are sort of a blur....

We seem to have moved baseball back to JOS, and yes, Allan did dig up the records for me!

L-girl said...

through whenever I began keeping a calendar on Yahoo and then Google

I'm curious, do you also download or backup to your own software?

When I changed from paper to electronic organizers, I always used my own computer or a handheld, nothing online. It would bother me if the information was only available through someone's else software and server. Not you?

Amy said...

No, I just rely on Google. Probably pretty stupid, but my life isn't too complicated anyway. Plus if Google goes down, I lose not only my calendar but my email, my photos, etc. Google owns me.....

L-girl said...

Plus if Google goes down, I lose not only my calendar but my email, my photos, etc.

Wow.

I use Gmail, but I also use it through Outlook so everything is backed up. All my photos on Flickr are also on my home computer and backed up elsewhere. Etc.

You have photos that are only online and not in your possession? Wow.

You must be someone who has never lost data. Or you are not very attached to your data, which is even better.

I had my entire computer - data, software, operating system, everything - wiped out by a virus. I'll never have anything not backed up again.

Amy said...

Now you have me worrying!! Actually, it's not as bad as it seems. My work email is on my server at work; at home even my Gmail comes through Thunderbird as well as Gmail (but I tend to delete most of it anyway once I respond; just a little compulsive that way). My photos are stored both on Picasa and Snapfish as well as on the hard drive of my desktop. I also have prints of all my photos. My Word dox are all on my hard drive either at home or at work. So....mostly it's the calendar that is only on line.

I am not attached to much in terms of data, except for my photos. And as you can see, those I have backed up THREE times. I hope someday to scan all my old photos into the computer so that I have them backed up as well, but I just don't have the time or patience to take them all out of the albums and do it. (I am compulsive about putting photos in albums.)

So...we all have our own neuroses!

L-girl said...

I'm glad to know you have your photos in more than one place!

I assure you, guarding against computer failure is not a neurosis. It's a necessary reality. Unless you truly don't care about your data being lost, then it's not.

I don't use any type of elaborate system, and it takes very little extra time or effort. But everything is backed up somewhere.

Amy said...

I know you are right, but like I said, all my documents are backed up at work (on the school's network and servers). Emails that are important are saved through Thunderbird as well as on the Google system. The only thing that really is not backed up is the calendar and, I guess, my contacts list (though also both are on my hard drive and on Google). Where else would I back them up? A thumb drive (which I would likely lose like I used to lose floppy disks) or a zip drive?

I do know about system failures---my younger daughter's computer crashed and burned, and she lost all her documents,photos and music (though the photos were at Snapfish and the music on her Ipod). My older daughter had her laptop crash during an exam. I know I have been lucky, but like I said, most stuff is stored in at least two places, one on line and one on a hard drive.

I can't find half the stuff I have in real space storage as it is. I am just glad the digital era has made it possible to store most things in a format that takes up no or little real space.

Lee said...

Happy (belated) Anniversary to you both!

L-girl said...

Thank you Lee!

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Amy, it sounds like you're in great shape, and obviously if you're comfortable with the calendar the way it is, that's all that counts. And probably nothing will happen to it anyway.

I was probably surprised about the calendar b/c I've always used something that I can have with me all the time - either paper or electronic, something I can throw in my bag and always have all my phone numbers, date book, etc. I wouldn't like to have to be online to access my calendar.

I'm one of these people who can't make a move without consulting my calendar. Or diary, as my Brit friends say.

Amy said...

Funny---for me, knowing I can't lose my calendar makes me feel so much better! I print out the current month if I know I am going to need it with me, but generally I am likely to lose a calendar or address book if carry it with me. For example, in the past weeks I twice misplaced my wallet (luckily found it untouched both times) and once left my keys locked inside my office. I can't tell you how many pairs of gloves, umbrellas and sunglasses I have lost over the years. I figure that the older I get, the worse it will be.

L-girl said...

Ah yes, it all depends what we're afraid of, what our habits are.

I very rarely lose things - so rarely that I remember every single thing I've ever lost - the handmade sweater I left on the back of my chair in Chinatown, the umbrella from London that I left in a cab. 10 years ago, but I still remember.

My electronic organizer (which is now a poscket PC) syncs w/ my home computer, so even if I lost it, I'd still have the data. But if I ever lost my iPAQ, omg, I'd have to be checked into a clinic. Something would be seriously wrong.

So yes, if you're prone to losing things, then an online calendar is an excellent idea. I never would have thought of that! (And now you know why.)

Amy said...

Wow, I am envious. I hate losing things, but have learned that almost everything is replaceable, although often a hassle. Carrying an expensive PDA is just not an option for me; the anxiety it would create would outweigh the convenience it could provide.