12.28.2006

looking ahead, part one

January 2007 will be a very eventful month.

We move on January 2, so we start the new year in a new home, our fifth home together. As much as I'd rather not leave this neighbourhood, I'm really excited about the new place. It's a nicer house, in better shape than our current rental, and it comes without the insecurity of a non-renewed lease. The backyard is still large, but more manageable than the one we have now, and more private. And the neighbourhood, while lacking the small-town feel of Port Credit (which is very rare in today's suburbs), is spacious and leafy. Once we get past the enormous inconvenience of the move, I think we'll be very happy there.

On January 3, we celebrate 20 years of domestic partnership. Twenty years! I can hardly believe it. And we're probably in the best place our partnership has ever been, both figuratively and literally.

On January 22, we take a very special, slightly crazy trip to celebrate that anniversary. I don't want to write about it yet, but will soon.

And on January 29, we bring home Tala, the fifth dog to join the Kaminker-Wood fambly. We lost Buster last November, which makes it the longest we've had only one dog since finding our second dog, Clyde - Allan's baby, and the sweetest dog in the world - in 1989.

Having fallen in love with Tala, I find myself finally moving out of my deep grief for Buster. As I've said so many times here, Buster was a very special animal, with a long list of complicated special needs. His death was a huge wound, his absence a gaping void. (Some of that story here, here, here and here; the story of how we found him here.) All through this year, I missed him so much.

Every once in a while, I would mention this to Allan, wondering when I would get to the place I reached with our other dogs' deaths, where we could remember them fondly and happily, talk and laugh about their quirks and their personalities, and feel happy and lucky to have known them, not just stricken to have lost them. I assumed it would happen one day, but I couldn't seem to say two words about Buster without starting to cry.

This month, I find myself looking ahead to Tala more than I am looking back to Buster. I can talk about him without crying. I think I turned a corner.

Of course I'm crying as I write this! But still.

7 comments:

David Cho said...

Nice post, and I too am looking forward to welcoming Tala to the wmtc family.

Sign...I hope the inevitable won't be any time soon, at least not before you meet Noah :).

Hey, you are also moving to WordPress. BTW, does this mean we all have to open up WP accounts to comment?

L-girl said...

I hope the inevitable won't be any time soon, at least not before you meet Noah :).

Noah is only middle-aged, and he's a healthy dog. Hopefully you'll have many more years together.

That's what we tell ourselves about Cody all the time... :/

Hey, you are also moving to WordPress. BTW, does this mean we all have to open up WP accounts to comment?

Good question! I don't know the answer, and I can't test it without clearing cookies, and I don't want to. Email me and I'll send you the URL for the dummy blog. You can be the pioneer and let me know.

James said...

I don't know the answer, and I can't test it without clearing cookies

You can get a different browser (Firefox if you use IE, or IE if you use Firefox, or Opera) and try with that -- it'll be clear of cookies, as each browser keeps its set independently of the others.

L-girl said...

You can get a different browser (Firefox if you use IE, or IE if you use Firefox, or Opera) and try with that -- it'll be clear of cookies, as each browser keeps its set independently of the others.

True, but not worth it. Allan or someone else can just test it for me.

It's not like I'm deciding whether or not to switch to WP. I'm just waiting on the new import tool to make the switch.

L-girl said...

I have the answer. It's up to me. I can set it so anyone can comment, or can set it so only registered users can comment. I'll start out with "anyone can comment" and see how it goes. If it gets sticky, I'll change it.

L-girl said...

And guess what??? WordPress has a way to block commenters, based on name, IP address, content, etc. Goodbye GaryStJ!!!

redsock said...

Rut row!

That's not going to set well with our obsessed little pal. He'll be badmouthing you all over the internets.

Time to up your meds, Gary!