8.10.2006

decision

There's a puppy who needs a home.

It was abandoned on a road in Hamilton, near the SPCA. Someone is fostering it, but not taking it to the shelter, as there's reason to believe it would be put down. She's a female, three months old, adorable, with reports of a happy temperament.

I'm on the fence.

On the one hand, Cody loved Buster, and Clyde before him, so much. She adored them, doted on them, worshiped them. She clearly loved living with another dog.

As Cody ages, it will be less and less fair to bring another dog into the home; I feel if we're going to get another dog, we should do so soon, or on the soon side. If we don't get another dog, when Cody dies, we'll be dog-less for the first time since shortly after we started living together. (We adopted our first dog, Gypsy, in November 1987.) That's a scary thought.

I loved having two dogs, and I know I would love a new dog, we'd give it a great home, and it would bring us much joy.

On the other hand, we are very much enjoying the ease of having only one easy-going, low-maintenance dog. Caring for Buster's many physical and emotional issues left us drained and exhausted. Although we never would have given up on him - and you know how much we loved him - we are really enjoying our new freedom. We aren't rushing into the added expense and effort of a new dog, let alone a puppy.

But I haven't been able to close the door on the idea, either. Something in me wants to say yes to this dog. But not entirely.

We continue to think about it. Meanwhile, I'm hoping some other wonderful family takes the pup, and makes the decision for me.

5 comments:

James said...

Just do me a favour and don't tell Lori about this girl, or we'll have to deal with a dog here! ;)

L-girl said...

I'm hoping some other wonderful family takes the pup, and makes the decision for me.

Just do me a favour and don't tell Lori about this girl, or we'll have to deal with a dog here! ;)


Ok, so that won't be you... :)

Scott M. said...

Two thoughts:

a) Guilt is very powerful, and can cloud judgement. What you're looking at is a big commitment (you already know that, I know), and I know puppy-dog eyes can make me run out and do things I shouldn't (hopefully not you). Two ways to think about it: i) if this dog wasn't up for adoption, would you have seeked out a dog from the shelter? There's lots there who will be put down for sure. (ii) If this same dog was available for sale how much would you pay for him?

These are just mental exercises -- use them if you like.

b) My family have always had two dogs. When Punch died, Judy was distraught. Once we got the puppy (Monty), it took her a few months to adapt. After she did, however, she enjoyed being head-of-the-house. When Judy died, Monty was sad and downright nasty for months on end. It was only when we got our next puppy, Mandy, that Monty started turning around. He's now matured and become very friendly.

Of course, as with all things, YMMV.

L-girl said...

Thanks for your thoughts, Scott.

We've also always had two dogs, and reactions to the loss of one has varied for the second.

But other than the first (who we adopted from a shelter), we never planned our dogs. We found them, and the time felt right. So the two questions, while good, may not apply to us.

Especially the second question, because I'd never pay a penny for any dog - I don't believe in buying animals when there is such a great need for adoption. I've spent thousands upon thousands keeping dogs healthy and alive, but would never want to be part of a sales transaction that involved a living creature.

For me it's more that the opportunity has presented itself, and do we want to take it, or wait for another.

L-girl said...

I should also probably clarify that if someone offered a puppy and the time was clearly wrong, I would easily pass. Shortly after Buster's death someone told us about a beagle that needed a home, and I said no without a second thought. There was just no way. This time, I stopped and considered it for a long time, and am still considering it - so that tells me something. :)